Don't you worry we didn't miss celebrating our first year together and all the milestones. We shared cards in the airport and drooled over our new gifts. Jerod gave me a beautiful aquamarine ring he bought in London and I gave him a cool watch I bought on Amazon. :)
And in all honesty when I thought about writing the post closing our first year of marriage I wanted time to sit down and do it justice.
I just heard all you groan over the sappy intro but I typed the above with all seriousness. His main goal is the anticipate my needs so I don't have to even ask. Case in point- my coffee is always ready for me, piping hot, every single morning.
I would say most fights I pick are due to me wanting my way or thinking my way is right or only seeing my way....you get the point. Turns out, when you live with someone else you all of a sudden have two, both right, ways of doing most everything.
In one year of marriage we've been to Bali, spent a weekend at the cabin, gone camping at a local campground, canoed into the Boundary Waters, spent weekends in CA at Stanford and FL for Jacksonville University, we've met up in Pennsylvania and gone on family vacation in Hawaii.
The past 13 months has been an exciting journey of culinary adventures. Our kitchen is always busy with a new bread baking, trying out a new deglazing skill or a weird spaghetti squash on the counter that neither of us know how to prepare. It may sounds crazy but we have fallen in love with the amazing, adventurous cook inside of each other.
We've been pretty open about the fact that we agree with the saying, "Your first year of marriage is the hardest". But we usually follow that up with, "But, it is SO worth it." Every fight, every conflict has just proven that we are in this for the long haul and we aren't giving up. And every conflict means we are growing closer as we hash through it to get to the bottom of it.
We love playing tennis across the street, riding bikes to get ice cream, roasting marshmallows in our back yard, hiding from each other in the store, racing each other to the car, racing each other everywhere, going to movies and buying the biggest popcorn they have, people watching and guessing what people's names are, talking to each other in accents, making fart noises, making faces at one another, impersonating birds and frogs, swimming around in the ocean and the list goes on forever.
Chores that you used to hate doing become your favorite, simply because of how much your spouse loves it. Ok so maybe dishes aren't my favorite but I love that Jerod is relaxed when he comes home from work to a clean(er) home. And true to his vows he's even gone on a few walks with me, the jury is still out if he loves walks now. But serving each other is more enjoyable than avoiding it.
We started a habit when we were dating that has carried over into our marriage. Every night, no matter what, we pray together before we go to sleep. Its kinda hard to pray when your mad at the other person. Not going to bed mad doesn't mean your resolve everything before you fall asleep. For us it means getting to place where we can say, "I still love you, I understand where you are coming from and I'm sorry for hurting you". Turns out we both don't sleep well if we try to go to bed mad so its always worth it to us to resolve issues first.
We started weekly date nights when we were engaged and haven't stopped planning fun, romantic or adventurous dates since. Its so exciting to see what Jerod plans when it is his turn and have an entire night dedicated to just us. I honestly love this man with all my heart so having him all to myself and trying out new food, talking or cheering on a team next to him is the highlight of my week.
I love Jerod, love him, love him! I've never been so happy and so changed in one year. People always say, "marriage shouldn't change you" but I completely disagree. It SHOULD change you into a more patient wife, loving wife, cleaner wife. It SHOULD challenge you to be better. It will reveal the wrong in your life and I am learning to be teachable to that moment. Marriage refines you, smooths your rough edges and I'm so grateful that the man who is walking this journey with me loves my heart and all of it imperfections. He graciously picks up my stinky work socks, reigns me in when I'm being too competitive, and encourages me to seek God.
I love you Jerod,